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Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Tips for Navigating the System1

Maisie Ross, Larry Forthun, Millie Ferrer-Chancy, and Angela Falcone2

Goal: To provide grandparents with information and skills necessary to use various community resources.

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An increasing number of grandparents are caring for their grandchildren. There are many reasons for this, but whatever the reason, being a primary caregiver for your grandchildren can be an overwhelming task. Those who take on the job are often in need of assistance with their new role. Grandparents in this position often struggle with some of the following issues:

  • financial;

  • medical;

  • educational; and

  • custodial.

One of the greatest challenges facing caregivers is knowing where to get help. Help is available if you are a grandparent who has the primary role of caring for your grandchild.

Do you know what services are available in your area? Taking on this new parenting role should not lessen the quality of life for you or your grandchildren. It should not use up all your savings. Both you and your grandchildren are entitled to any assistance available in your community.

This publication is designed to provide tips for navigating the system. For details on specific resources within your community, see other publications in this series:

Developing Your Plan

Many grandparents are not aware of or are unable to effectively use community resources. If you want help, you will need to develop a plan of action that includes the following steps:

1. Identify and list the problems you are having. Be as specific as possible as you list the problems you face and how they impact your ability to care for your grandchildren.

For example: "When my grandchildren get sick, they need to see a doctor. I can't afford to pay for an office visit for each grandchild, so I stay home from work to take care of them. That also means less money in my paycheck at the end of the month."

2. Write down the barriers that are preventing you from getting the help you need. A barrier is any obstacle that you feel will keep you from getting what you need.

For example: "My grandchildren need health care but my employer won't pay for it and I can't afford to pay for it on my own."

3. Create a plan to search for available community resources that match your needs and overcome your barriers. Begin by reading the other publications in this series, and then list the things you will do to search for the resources you need.

For example:

a. Go to the Florida KidCare website (http://floridakidacare.org) and read about the health care options available for children.

b. Request a KidCare application and read the instructions thoroughly so I know what kind of documentation is required. I don't want to mail the application and find out later I forgot something and have to fill it out again.

c. If I need help, I will call my local Medicaid office.

Preparing for the Search

It can be difficult and time-consuming to search for needed resources. It is important that you think clearly about what you need and must do. You will need to learn how to work with public systems such as schools, child welfare, health, and legal aid. Keep in mind that many of these systems were not originally set up to recognize grandparents raising their grandchildren.

You can develop qualities to be better prepared for your search. You need to be:

1. Confident - If you qualify for a service, you have the right to use it. Ask for what you need and say it with confidence.

2. Organized - People will take you more seriously if you are organized. You will be more effective if you:

  • make a list of the agencies that best fit your needs;

  • write down the phone number(s);

  • locate a contact person;

  • prepare questions to ask on the phone or in person;

  • are on time for all appointments; and

  • write down what you were told, the name of the person with whom you met, and the date.

3. Persistent - Don't give up. Keep looking and asking questions. One person may tell you he can't help, but sure enough, someone else at the same agency usually can.

4. Energetic - Take care of yourself. Get enough rest so your mind will be alert. Be enthusiastic when you ask for and receive help.

5. Well Prepared - Have the following documents:

  • your grandchild's birth certificate;

  • proof of caretaker responsibility (e.g., a statement from the parent or any legal document);

  • child's Social Security number;

  • proof of income for household members;

  • proof of ownership (e.g., house deed, title of car); and

  • your household expenses (e.g., mortgage payments or rent receipts, utility bills).

Where to Search

There are a number of resources available to you. These include both government and private agencies. Some of these are universities, senior centers, and schools. You can also look for help in faith-based groups and support groups. Fees for these services range in price. Government services are usually free or cost very little.

As you search your community, you will find resources to assist you. These resources can help you with your financial, health, child care, or educational needs.

Where to Get Help

Kinship Care Warmline: 1-800-640-6444
This toll-free line provides information, referrals, and emotional support to kinship caregivers weekdays from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m.
United Way Information and Referral: 1-800-411-8929
This service, which has a list of all your community resources, links you to local information and referrals. State what you need and this will help match you to the appropriate resource.

References

Birckmayer, J., Jensen, I., Variano, D., & Wallace, G. (2009). Parenting the second time around (3rd ed.). Cornell University.

Grandparent Resource Center, New York City Department for the Aging. (n.d.). For grandparents raising grandchildren: A series of workshops to help you cope. New York: New York City Department for the Aging.

Footnotes

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This document is FCS2188, one of a series of the Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences, UF/IFAS Extension. First published: December 2002. Latest revision: July 2013. Please visit the EDIS website at http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu.

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Maisie Ross, UF/IFAS Extension agent III, UF/IFAS Extension Palm Beach County; Larry Forthun, Ph.D., associate professor, Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences; Millie Ferrer-Chancy, Ph.D., professor emeritus; Angela Falcone, former FYCS graduate student; UF/IFAS Extension, Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences, University of Florida, Gainesville, FL 32611.


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