Who am I? What is my purpose? Have you ever asked yourself these questions? You're not alone. Every teenager at one time or another has asked these questions. It's the answers that are hard to figure out. Searching for a sense of meaning and purpose in life is not easy. However, you can do a few things that will help you discover the answers. One of the most important is discovering your spirituality.
Spirituality can be defined in a variety of ways. Most definitions agree that spirituality is a connection to something that is greater than the self and inspires respect and admiration (Lerner, Roeser, and Phelps 2008). This can be a connection to a religious being such as a deity or spirit. It can also be a connection to individuals, objects, or a set of beliefs that inspire both wonder and humility. In either case, spirituality refers to the activity of fostering a connection to what is sacred and meaningful in life.
People often think of spirituality in terms of religious beliefs and practices; however, one can be spiritual but not very religious. Religion focuses on the beliefs and practices of a religious organization or creed, while spirituality focuses on inspiration, self-reflection, and personal connection. One can be both spiritual and religious or neither spiritual nor religious. However, researchers are beginning to discover the importance of being a spiritual person, especially for teens (Lerner, Roeser, and Phelps 2008; Smith and Faris 2002). The benefits of spirituality include the following (Roehlkepartain et. al 2006; The Center for Spiritual Development n.d.):
Higher self-esteem and self-worth
More positive relationships
Lower alcohol and drug use
Greater sense that life has meaning and purpose
Greater sense of belonging and connectedness
Lower anxiety and stress
A stronger relationship with parents
More friends who are positive influences
More respect for yourself and others
Greater success in life
Experiencing a feeling of hope, even during hardships (Roehlkepartain et al. 2006; The Center for Spiritual Development n.d.)
All of these benefits can help you find the answers to the important questions in life because they help you develop better relationships with others and lead you to make healthy choices.
How can you promote spirituality in your life?
Don't be afraid to discuss spiritual questions with your parents or other trusted adults (The Center for Spiritual Development n.d.). Open up to someone whom you believe you can talk to and who will not judge you for asking some of the "tough" questions.
Express your spirituality through journals, music, and other forms of self-expression (The Center for Spiritual Development n.d.). Spirituality really flows through self-discovery.
Surround yourself with positive friends who strengthen your spiritual growth (The Center for Spiritual Development n.d.). Your values are influenced by those around you, so pick your friends wisely.
If you already attend a church, synagogue, temple, or mosque:
Learn more about your own religious beliefs by reading sacred books, praying or meditating, or attending religious activities.
Ask questions of your religious or spiritual leaders and share personal experiences with adults you trust (The Center for Spiritual Development n.d.).
Get involved in religious activities just for teens. Participation in these activities will give you the opportunity to develop friendships with people who share similar values.
Whether you are religious or not, anyone can develop spirituality. Developing spirituality promotes self-discovery so that you can better understand your own values, competencies, and strengths. It helps to establish meaningful relationships with others you can count on to be there when times get tough. And it allows you to see the "big picture" and to make decisions in life that will benefit you in the long run. Spirituality can be formed and practiced in a variety of different ways. No matter which path you choose, a positive and healthy spirituality will provide you with a sense of meaning and purpose and help you to navigate the obstacles in life.
For Additional Information
Search Institute, Spiritual Development: http://www.search-institute.org/spiritual-development
University of Notre Dame: http://youthandreligion.nd.edu/
You can also visit your religious organization's website.
The Center for Spiritual Development in Childhood & Adolescence. (n.d.). "Nuturing a Child's Spirit: Tips for Parents and Caring Adults." http://searchinstitutepress.org/downloads/cbf/NurturingaChildSpiritually.doc (January 2018)
Lerner, R. M., Roeser, R. W., & Phelps, E. (eds.). (2008). Positive Youth Development and Spirituality. West Conshohocken, PA: Templeton Foundation Press.
Roehlkepartain E., King, P. E., Wagener, L., & Benson P. L. (eds.). (2006). The Handbook of Spiritual Development in Childhood and Adolescence. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications.
Smith C., & Faris R. (2002). "Religion and American Adolescent Delinquency, Risk Behaviors, and Constructive Social Activities: A Research Report of the National Study of Youth and Religion, Number 1." National Study of Youth & Religion. https://youthandreligion.nd.edu/assets/102504/religion_and_american_adolescent_delinquency_risk_behaviors_and_constructive_social_activities.pdf (January 2018)